Personal Power: Do you find yourself giving away your power to others? Does it slip away gradually and unnoticed, or have you handed over your power to another out of fear, in the name of love, or simply resolve an uncomfortable situation quickly?
In this post, we’ll explore personal power and ways you can maintain and enhance yours.
What Is Personal Power?
Personal power is a term we use to describe a set of characteristics we possess that, together, enable us to get our way, accomplish our goals, make progress, and uphold our values. That bundle of characteristics is made up of energy, boundaries, courage, conviction, desire, and self-love, to name a few.
Exercising your power is vital for several reasons. The most important one is to help you focus on your purpose and stay steady on your path.
Do you sometimes feel as if your power is slipping away from you? You are not alone. Most of us have experienced this in some way.
Sometimes, it’s given away with a positive intention, for instance, when trying to keep peace in the workplace or keep everyone happy at home. We give our power away when we try to appease or please, when we are too concerned about the opinions of others, or when we put everyone else’s happiness ahead of our own goals.
Sometimes, our power is snatched away from us in an intimidating way, such as by persecution, war, bullying, abuse, and the like.
For example, it may show up in our lives when we
- set aside our goals and desires to follow someone else on their path, or because we fear criticism
- don’t make time for ourselve,s but are doing way too much for others
- feel we can’t speak our minds or give our opinion
- care more about getting approval from others than following our judgments and goals
- feel invisible, unheard, unappreciated
- act out of fear of retaliation or loss rather than from choices made to support our values
- Are in the habit of turning over decisions and choices to someone else.
Diminished personal power may have its roots in experiences from this life or in a past life. Giving away your power initially may stem from a need to survive, to win or keep someone’s love, or to fit into society. Over time, the result is pent-up anger, resentment, frustration, diminished self-esteem, and a block to achieving your passions or your purpose.
Some people view personal power as pushing others around or demanding that others do their bidding. That is force, not the same as personal power. Personal power means you control your life and your destiny, not control or restrict others.
Healthily wielding your power means having a presence, manifesting your goals, maintaining boundaries, standing up for yourself, affecting the change you wish to see in the world, and having the energy to create a life filled with achievement, joy, and well-being.
Steps to Regaining Your Power
Regaining your lost or diminished personal power is a process. It begins with understanding your internal perspectives and weaknesses that have contributed to this pattern of giving it away or losing it. We will explore past events in which this has occurred, whether in this life or past lives, to identify the common trait that enabled it. Every individual will have a unique set of circumstances and thought patterns that have contributed to this condition.
Once identified, we can begin making corrections, first in thought processes and then in behaviors and responses.
The needed corrections will become evident within the session. Then they are anchored and set in motion, and all that remains is to test them in everyday use. It may take getting familiar with a new way of being in the world, a way that is empowered, with courage and conviction, boundaries, and self-worth. Then, it will feel natural to live with the new pattern of personal power.
One of the most valuable aspects of building and maintaining personal power is gathering and fully integrating the memories of as many lifetimes as possible. This means that you not only know about those other lifetimes or have a sense of who you have been, but also to fully and seamlessly be one with those other incarnations. Rather than seeing your lifetimes as separate personalities and adventures, you see yourself as the focal point and embodiment of all your lifetimes. In this way, you gather all the energy, wisdom, lessons learned, skills, knowledge, and relationship perspectives into your present consciousness. It creates a strong energy field and a solid sense of self.
As you regain your power, you:
- Make your decisions based on how they will affect you in all of your aspects (lifetimes)
- Access the memories, wisdom, and knowledge that you have acquired, even in those faraway times
- Can recognize people you knew in other lifetimes, remember your relationships with them, and see their lives as a single continuum.
- They are energetically linked to all your aspects, creating a larger, more powerful Being within you today.
When this has occurred, you are less likely to be pushed around by the prevailing winds and less likely to lose or give away your power. You will be more grounded, self-assured, wise, and empowered to create the life you truly imagine for yourself.
Ending Thoughts
There are many ways that personal power is given or taken away. When this occurs, autonomy and self-direction are lost. This leads to anger, frustration, resentment, and the inability to maintain your true life path.
If you find that you have given away some or all of your power, or if you feel the effects of past traumas that have diminished your full empowerment, it is never too late to regain that energy and state of Being.
